Therefore, let us look at some, out of many, further sayings of the Prophet () that give us a better picture instead of the partial one some people have developed: , The best of you is the best to his wives, and I am the best of you to my wives. fasting, rather the prohibition applies to everyone, but is emphasized more The wife is commanded to obey, respect and venerate her husband. 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It has even happened that some fathers have read so much about the rights of mothers that they ask whether Islam even grants them any status! This hadith was classed as sahih by Imam Ahmad, al-Hakim, Ibn al-Salah and others. (interpretation of the meaning): but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them. during the fast than at other times. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because such things it is imperfect. The author of Lisaan al-Arab [a famous Arabic-language dictionary Translator] said: Lan (curse) means being cast out far from goodness, and it was said that it means being cast away far from Allaah, and from people. Islamically-sound reason (such as sickness, or his being drunk, for example), what happens (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: If a man calls his wife this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find admonish them (first), (next) refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat man to pray and fast a great deal if that will impact upon his wifes Find all the articles and videos of the Egyptian Revolution 2011 in this MV Media news special. What you have mentioned about being afraid for your daughter [Srat An-Nis': 19], If a man invites his wife to his bed and she refuses, and so he spends the night angry with her, the angels will curse her until the morning, , (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him), "If a man invites his wife to his bed and she refuses, and so he spends the night angry with her, the angels will curse her until the morning.". Islam forbids us from treading on the path that eventually leads to shaytaan even though the area being treaded may not have shaytaan there. It is impermissible for her to curse, humiliate or harm him. [Jami` at-Tirmidhi, Vol. The message act kindly towards women has been repeated a number of times in Sahih al-Bukhari and Sahih al-Muslim. This Ramadan, donate a beautiful Sadaqa to spread knowledge to millions and gain immense rewards. Allaah has no need of his giving up his food and drink.. WebStep by step, the men of Islam have come to be known today as the most monogamous of all men on earth (we only have one wife). To contribute and help us continue providing inspirational Islamic content, donate here. It is the stepping stone to enmity between husband and wife, and can easily end up with divorce, a broken home and many other problems. Allah ()says in Quran 2:168: do not follow the footsteps of Satan. It is as though the husband is lacking something without the wife, and she wants to be with him: both complete each other. by her, her husband and her daughter in the event of a divorce or if she Log in, Join our e-mail list for regular site news and updates, All Rights Reserved for Islam Q&A 1997-2023. is no man who calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, but the One Who is above the it was about rape of slave girls or something like that. imagine. You have rights over your women and your women have rights over you. And Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen said in al-Qawl al-Mufeed, 1/226. al-Jassas said: Allah tells us in this verse that each of the spouses has rights over the other, and that the husband has one particular right over his wife which she does not have over him. Islam Q&A, You can ask your question on the website via this link: https://islamqa.info/en/ask, Password should contain small, capital letter and at least 8 characters long, Log in He cannot tolerate this but he has a daughter, and he fears for his daughter if he divorces his wife. Islam and feminism are incompatible and their core principles are at clash with each other and there is nothing wrong in stating this and if the actual explanation was as you say, I would have no problem stating it as it is. Besides, you mention that scholars agree that, if there be a valid reason, she may refuse her husbands demands, but NONE of these valid reasons, if they exist, are mentioned or clarified in the hadiths. This is restricted, however, by the husband's anger, as in Al-Bukhri's narration. We simply cannot do this without your support and your support helps us continue our services. was said that it means speech in which there is no benefit. May Allaah send blessings and peace upon His Prophet Muhammad and for forgiveness for cursing one another. Alternatively, it may be in a pvt. When shame is a part of faith, it is just understood that not every situation is covered here. Change). to his bed and she refuses [and does not come], and he spends the night angry with her, On the other side, the husband has to fulfill the sexual needs of his wife, if he notices that she wants to have sexual intercourse or asks him to do so. All content on HOTD is free. her attitude. Standing Committee for Academic Research and Issuing Fatwas. Jazakallahu khayran. One of the rights of the husband over his wife is that she should not go out of the house except with his permission. Each spouse is enjoined by Islam to do everything that will our Prophet Muhammad. Cursing the kuffaar and sin in general terms, such as saying May Allaah curse the Jews and Christians, or May Allaah curse the kaafirs, evildoers and wrongdoers, or May Allaah curse the wine-drinker and thief. This kind of curse is permissible and there is nothing wrong with it. support them) from their means. advise her and warn her, and explain to her that her bad talk incurs sin, Is she to blame if he keeps her away from his bed? Allah says: {And live with them in kindness.} heaven: a runaway slave, until he returns to his master; a drunken man until he becomes If the wife insults and reviles her husband, then he must advise her and warn her, and explain to her that her bad talk incurs sin, especially since the even go beyond their heads: a woman whose husband calls her at night and with her because she is refusing to share his bed, then her sin is even It should be noted that this prohibition on obscenity, May ALLAH Reward u . Create an account, If you do not have an account, you can click the button below to create one, Create new account Mr. Rahma, are there ever any circumstances in which the Quran or the hadiths indicate that angels curse husbands and not wives? Some people are turned on by sexually explicit language. - [Al-Bukhari and Muslim], This Hadth indicates that a woman should answer her husband's request of having sexual intercourse with her, or else she exposes herself to the angels' curse. forgive her, or take another wife, or divorce her, this is all up to him to choose. Change), You are commenting using your Facebook account. Create an account, If you do not have an account, you can click the button below to create one, Create new account Then, Abu Bakr reviled the man with the same words as him and the Prophet became angry and he stood to leave. Cursing such persons is permitted. [] - [ ] We ask Allah to set our affairs and the affairs of the It is you who will have to take care of her, and you will also find difficulty in that she will not be able to attend to you and the children, and the maintenance of the home, etc. . be found in a hadeeth narrated by Muslim: By the One in Whose hand is my soul, there Lets look at the following Hadith: , Abu Huraira reported: A man reviled Abu Bakr while the Prophet () was sitting down. 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I have not seen anyone deficient in intelligence and religion, yet a decisive and sensible man could be led and subdued by one of you, Hadith: There should be no fasting on two days: Al-Fitr and Al-Ad'ha. have told women to prostrate to their husbands, because of the rights that Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): And whosoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He In one report, instead of WebMy question is regarding sexual activity between a husband and wife in Islam. This even if she is travelling on the camel back while some state that the words even if she is on the camel saddle is that even if she is in the process of delivering a baby. This Hadth indicates that a woman should answer her husband's request of having sexual intercourse with her, or else she exposes herself to the angels' curse. the woman beware of incurring her husbands wrath because this will lead to Obedience is the first right that Islam acknowledges for the husband over his wife. Why is that not spoken about? Their rights upon you are that you should provide them with food and clothing in a fitting manner. (Narrated by Muslim, 1218). If a woman refuses her husbands request to come to bed with no May Allaah reward you with good. Much of the confusion arises from reading and listening to one side of the story. [3] Al-Khattabi states in Maalim al-Sunan: . am fasting., Al-Bukhaari (1894) and Muslim (1151) narrated from Abu are any. It is unacceptable for someone to be called derogatory terms or to feel put down or hurt during sexual activity. Cursing anyone is unlawful in itself, then what Verily you have taken them on the security of Allah, and intercourse with them has been made lawful unto you by words of Allah. bed, the word bed is obviously a metaphor for intercourse. insults him. He said: Al-Hamw is death, Hadith: O womenfolk, give charity, for I have seen that you form the majority of the inhabitants of Hellfire. Can a wife refuse her husbands request for intercourse until she would pray? Their rights over you are that you should feed and clothe them well. (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1163 he said this is a sahih hasan hadith. Then poverty becomes the lot of not just the husband, but also the wife who cursed, and the children. Is this true or not? Who does not want a happy marriage? said: I disobey Allah then I see that in the attitude of my mount or my 2-That we should strive to ensure Neither of them becomes forbidden to the other as the result Neither of them becomes forbidden to the other as the result of cursing, and divorce does not take place as a result, but his cursing her or her cursing him is a Questions cannot be asked through this form. WebPraise be to Allah. Why do such misconceptions arise from such Hadiths? If the mahr is stipulated, it becomes obligatory upon the husband; if it is not stipulated, then he must give the mahr that is given to women of similar status to his wife. 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